prashna: vivah n hona ya deri se hona, vivah ke pashchat jivan sukhi n rahna, talak ho jana ya bina talak ke alag ho jana, vaivahik jivan nitya prati kleshpurn rahna jaisi samasyaon hetu kya vaidik, tantrik, adhyatmik, lal kitab ke upay tatha gharelu totkon ke dvara vaivahik jivan ko sukhamay banaya ja sakta hai? yadi han ! to vistrit jankari den.
stri tatha purush ke madhya ka akarshan,
prem, sneh tatha ragatmak sanbandh
srishti ke arambh se lekar aj
tak vidyaman hai. isi ragatmak
akarshan ko vivah namak sanstha
ke uday ka karan mana jata raha
hai. stri-purush ke madhya sanpark tatha
sharirik niktta to adi kal
se hi astitva men tha, parantu is
sanbandh ko maryadit rakhna hi vivah
ka mul uddeshya hai. jahan aranbh men
vivah hetu koi ayu sima nahin thi,
vahin kalantar men vivah ke lie stri
tatha purush ki ayu ka nirdharan
kiya gaya. yah nirdharan rajkiya
ya shaskiya n hokar samajik
tha. vaivahik ayu-sima ka yah
samajik nirdharan aj bhi dekha
ja sakta hai. kshetra-jati-samuh
adi ke adhar par ismen vividhta
bhi hai. pratyek mata-pita apne
santti ke vivah ke vishay men kafi
sajag rahte hain. parantu kafi prayas
ke bad bhi jab sabhi yogyataon se
purn putra athva putri ke vivah ki
sanbhavna kshin hone lagti hai, tab
us abhibhavak tatha unki santti
ko hone vali pira ka anuman laga
pana bhi dushkar hota hai. jabki kuch
paristhitiyon men yah dekha gaya hai
ki vivah to bari shighratapurvak aur
sahjta se ho gaya, parantu vivah ke
bad navvivahit dampatti ka jivan
kashtaprad tatha kalhpurn ho jata hai.
vivah se juri in samast samasyaon
ko ham vaivahik vilamb, vivah
pratibandh, vaivahik kalah, talak,
vaidhavya-vidhurta adi men bant sakte
hain.
vaivahik vilanb v pratibandh ke
upay-
- agni mahapuran ke 18ven adhyay men
varnit gauri pratishtha vidhi ka prayog
karen.
- is gandharvaraj
mantra ka das hajar jap karen.
‘‘un klin vishvasurnam gandharvah
kanyanamdhiptiah labhami devadattan
kanyan surupan salankaran tasmai
vishvavsve svaha’’.
- purushon ke shighra vivah ke lie
adholikhit mantra ka 108 bar jap
karen-
‘‘patnin manorman dehi
manovrityanusarinim.
tarinin durgasansarsagarasya
kulodbhavam..
- kankdhara stotra ka 21 path 90
din tak karen.
- shriramdrbar chitra ka panchopchar
pujan ke bad nimnalikhit dohe ka
21 bar jap karen-
‘‘tab janak pai vashishth aysu byah
saj sanvari kai.
mandvi shrutikirti urmila kunari
lai hankari kai..’’
- adholikhit yantra ko bhojapatra par
anar ki kalam aur ashtagandh ki
syahi se likhen-
iske bad haldi ki mala se
‘‘un ”hrin han sah’’
mantra ka 1100 jap
karen. japkal men til ke tel se
prajjvalit dipak jalta rahe. path
ke bad shighra vivah ki kamna
prakat karen.
is sandarbh men shukravar ko kiya
janevala man gauri ka vrat bhi
prashast mana gaya hai. nirahar vrat
ke bad sayankal panchmukhi dipak
jalaen. punah adholikhit mantra ka
108 bar jap karen-
‘‘balarkayutasatprabhan kartle
lolambamalakulan malan sandadhatin
manohrtnun mandasmitadhemukhim.
mandan mandamupeyushin varyitun
shambhun jaganmohinin, vande
devmunindravanditpdam ishtarthadan
parvatim..’’
- vaivahik vilamb athva pratibandh
yogon men shani ki mahatvapurn bhumika
hoti hai. atah aisi paristhiti men
nimnalikhit mantra ka prayog shighra hi
fal deta hai-
‘‘konasthah pinglon babhruah krishno
raundro'ntako yamah.
sauriah shanaishcharo mandah pippalashray sansthitah..
etani shani-namani japedashvatthasannidhau.
shanaishcharakrita pira n kadapi bhavishyati..’’
shanivar ko sayankal pipal vriksh
ke niche sarson ke tel ka dipak
jalaen, aur uprokt mantra ka 36
bar jap karen.
- yogya purohit ke sannidhya men
atyant prabhavshali ‘shani-patal
kriya’ ka anushthan karaen.
yadi janmang men mangal dosh vidyaman
ho aur is karan se vivah men
vilamb ho raha ho to adholikhit
upay shighra hi fal pradan karte hain-
mangal chandika stotra ka 21 path
nitya karen-
‘‘raksh raksh jaganmatardevi mangalachandike.
harike vipdan rasheah harshamanglkrike..
harshamangaladakshe ch harshamangldayike.
shubhe mangaladakshe ch shubhe mangalachandike..
mangle manglarhe ch sarvamanglmangle.
sada manglde devi sarveshan manglalye..
’’
- mangalastotra ka nitya 21 bar jap
karen.
- saubhagyashtottar shatnam stotra ka
path karen.
- mangal yantra ki vidhipurvak sthapna
karen.
- yogya purohit ke dvara kanya ka kunbh
athva vishnu vivah atyant gopniya
tarike se karvaen. gopniyata hi
is prayog ke saflta ki kunji
hoti hai.
- saundarya lahri (shlok 1-27) ka
path karen.
- savitri vrat ka sashraddha anushthan
karen.
- sonth, saunf, maulashri ke ful,
singarak, malkangni aur lal chandan
sam bhag len. ise jal men milakar
manglvar ko snan karen.
- bel, jatamansi, lakh ke ful,
hinglu, bal, chandan aur muvla
aushdhiyon ko pani men milakar
manglvar ko snan karen.
vishesh upay shighra vivah hetu (anubhut)
shivratri ke din jis mandir men shiv
parvati vivah ka anushthan hua ho.
kanya vahan jay aur vivah ki puri
vidhi ko dekhe. is vivahotsav men
‘laja’ (khil) bhi bikhere jate hain.
kanya pratahkal mandir jae aur vahan
se in khil ke 11 dane chun kar
kha le. shighra vivah ka yog banega.
- ramchritmanas ke shiv parvati
vivah prasang ka 11 somvar tak
sashraddha path karen.
- shriramjanki ke vivah prasang ka
path bhi ashcharyajanak saflta deta
hai.
- yadi kalasarp yog ke karan
vivah men vilanb ho raha ho to vaidik
vidhi se is dosh ki shanti ghar men
karvaen. shuddh svarn ke ath nag
(savagram prati) banvakar jal men
pravah den.
vaivahik kalhpurn jivan se
mukti-
in paristhitiyon ko utpann karne
vale grahon ki pahchan yogya jyotishi
se karvane ke bad uttaradayi grahon
ki shanti karvaen.
pati ki avhelna tatha tiraskar
se pirit kanyaen adholikhit
mantra ka 108 bar jap nitya karen,
ashcharyajanak fal shighra hi prapt
honge-
‘‘abhitva manujaten dadhami mam vasna.
yashso mam kevlo nanyasa kirtayashchan..
yatha nakulo vichchidya sandadhatyahin punah.
evan kamasya vichchinnan se dhehi vo yaditiah..
ufan klin trayambakam yajamhe sugandhim pativedanam.
urvarukmiv bandhnanmrityormukshiya mamritat klin ufan..’’
sanpurn jap kal men ghi ka dipak
prajjvalit rakhen.
shighra faldayak shabar mantra
yadi kisi parai stri athva
par-purush ke karan vaivahik jivan
vishakt ho raha ho to yah prayog
karen-
‘‘om satyanam adesh guru ko,
laung-laung mera bhai, inhin laung ne
shakti chalai pahli laung rati mati,
duji laung joban mati, tiji laung
ang marore, chaithi lanaig dou kar
jore, charon laung jo meri khay....
...... ke pas se ............... ke pas
a jay, guru ki shakti meri bhakti,
furomantra ishvari vacha.’’ char sabut
laung len. uprokt mantra ko 108
bar parhakar is laung ko khila den.
pahle khali sthan men parastri ya
parpurush ka nam ho jabki dusre
khali sthan men upasak apna nam
rakhen.
ratnadharan v rudraksha
- vaivahik vilanb ke sandarbh men ganesh
rudraksh dharan karna chamatkarik fal
deta hai.
- vaivahik sukh hetu brihaspati tatha
shukra sarvadhik mahatvapurn mane jate
hain. jahan vaivahik jivan ke aranbh
hetu brihaspati uttaradayi hain vahin shukra
shayya sukh v sharirik sukh pradan
karte hain. inse sanbandhit shanti upay
sukhad vaivahik jivan ki kunji
siddh hoti hai.
- vaivahik vilanb v pratibandh adi
paristhiti men pila pukhraj (nirdosh)
sarhe sat ratti ka len. svarn ki
mudrika men banvakar guruvar ke din
tarjani anguli men dharan karen.
- sharirik akshamata adi ke karan
vaivahik jivan nasht ho raha ho to
hira (nyunatam ek kairet) dharan kare.
- gauri shankar rudraksh vidhi-purvak
dharan karne se vaivahik jivan ki
visangtiyon ka nash sahaj hi ho
jata hai.