jara sochakar dekhen ki jab nai-nai shadi hone vali hoti hai ya ho jati hai to man men n jane kitne sapne hote hain, aise sapne har koi dekhta ya sochta hai, man bap bhi apne bahu ke arman lie hote hain, ki mere bachche ka ghar basne vala hai. ek garva sa mahsus hota hai jab koi mata-pita sas-sasur ka darja pane vale hote hain, yahi khvab ek larki ki man bhi dekhti hai ki ab meri bitiya ko achcha aur samjhdar jivan sathi milne vala hai. koi galti ya gurudev ji. di. vashishth ghatna n ghate, isilie gun milan bhi karvate hain, parivar ki bhi thik tarah se janch partal karte hain. arthat bachchon ko jivnsathi achcha mile iske lie koi kasar nahin chori jati hai, ek yugal premi jora bhi apne ghar ko sanjone ke sapne dekhta hai, ya aisa kaha ja sakta hai ki sansar ka har jiv pyar, parivar aur apnapan pane ke lie jivan jita hai, achanak aisa kya hota hai jiske karan ghar men vivah ke hote hi ye sabhi batane sirf sapna ya jhutha dikhava lagta hai aur ham khud ko jivan se thaga hua mahsus karne ko majbur ho jate hain. aie aj ham inhin sabko thik karne ka hal nikalen...
shadi karne se pahle kya dekhen
- shadi karne se pahle jivnsathi ki bahan, bua aur kanyaon ke halat jarur dekhen, agar unki sthiti thik nahin hai, shayad hi vivah ke bad jivan sukhi ho paega, aise men shadi se pahle apne aur jivnsathi ke budh ke upay karen, (iske lie achchi jyotishiya salah jaruri hai).
- vivah ke lie gun milan jitna jaruri hai utna jyada hi grahon ka milan bhi bahut jaruri hota hai, jaise ek ka bura samay ho to dusre ka bura samay n ho, jis tarah se gari ka ek pahiya panchar ho to kam se kam dusra to thik hona chahie.
shadi ke bad kya karen aur kya n karen
- ghar ki chat par kisi bhi prakar ka kabar, loha, lakri adi n rakhen, kyonki ghar ki chat bistar ke sukh vale grah se sanbandhit hoti hai aur jab bhi pati-patni rat ko bistar men pahunchenge to larai hogi.
- shadi ke bad pati-patni din ke samay ek n hon, anyatha aise men ghar se bimariyan khatm nahin hoti aur kai bar to dhire-dhire karke donon men se kisi ek ki halat kharab hoti jati hai, kamkaj men bhi taklifen ane lagti hain aur bachchon ke bhavishya par bhi nakaratmak prabhav parta hai.
- apne bistaron aur kaprane ko saf-suthra rakhen, takiyon ke lihaf adi gande, fate n hon.
- ghar men halke khushbu aur saf-safai ko prathmikta jarur den, aur har chij ki ek jagah nishchit hoti hai use thik jagah hi rakhen.
- yugal pati-patni ke kamre men bare-bujurgon, bhagvan ki tasviren, murti aur hinsatmak tasviren adi n rakhen, achchi, khubsurat aur ekta ki bhavna vali foto hi rakhen.
pati-patni bimar rahte hon ya tanav ho, kamkaj men dikkatane hon to kya karen
- ghar men nile, kale ya fir gahre rang ka pent n karvaen.
- din ke samay sharirik sanbandh se bachakar chalen aur jivnsathi ki ichcha ka samman avashya karen.
- hafte men ek bar ya jab bhi mauka mile to kisi bhi gaushala men jakar vahan par gayon ki seva jarur karen, paisa n den, gayon ko hara chara, chari, jvar, bajra, khal, churi, binaula adi hi dalen. aisa karte rahne se apki andruni urja bani rahegi, ghar men sukh shanti bhi banegi, jivnsathi ke sharirik sanbandhon men bhi sudhar honge.
jivnsathi men vafadari men kami ko aise karen dur .....
- stil ke bare se bartan men gangajal bharakar chandi ke chaikor tukre dalakar stil ka dhakkan lagakar ghar men rakhen.
- ghar ki uttar aur purva disha ko bilkul saf-suthra rakhen kyonki agar ghar men bekar ki chijen rakhenge to bevajah ki batane hi bolenge aur apke man-samman men kami aegi.
- puja vale 7 nariyal kisi chalte huye saf pani men jal pravah karen.
- sasural se chandi ki thos int jiska vajan lagabhag 60 gram ho use lekar dhar men hamesha ke lie sanbhalakar rakhen, agar ap patni hon to apne mayke (mata-pita parivar) se lekar ghar men ajivan sanbhalakar rakhen.
- gahre aur kale, nile rangon se hamesha dur rahen, jivnsathi se koi bhi galti ya bat n chupaen, aisa karna bhi vafadari men kami karna ata hai.
- gay ki seva jarur karen aur ghar ki halki khushbu tatha saf safai ki taraf vishesh dhyan rakhen.