grih kalah ki koi n koi vajah jarur hoti hai jaise pati-patni ke tanav ka mukhya karan unke gharvalon ko lekar utpann kalah hoti hai. kalah ke karan kai bar to dampatya jivan men tanav itna barh jata hai ki talak tak ki naubat a jati hai.
isse bachav ka ek saral sa rasta yah hai ki jab bhi ap apne larke ya larki ke gunon ka milan karaen to gunon ke sath-sath patri par bhi dhyan den. kai bar kalah bachchon ke janm ko lekar bhi hota hai jiski vajah se grih klesh kafi barh jata hai. dampatya jivan men kalah ke kuch mukhya karan is prakar hain.
- larke ya larki ki patri men saptam bhav men shani ka hona ya gochar karna.
- kisi pap grah ki saptam ya ashtam bhav par drishti hona ya rahu, ketu athva surya ka vahan baithna
- pati-patni ki ek si dasha ya shani ki sarhe sati ka chalna bhi kalah evan talak ka ek karan hota hai.
- shukra ki guru men dasha ka chalna ya guru men shukra ki dasha ka chalna bhi ek karan hai. kalah ko dur karne ke kuch upayon ka varnan yahan kiya ja raha hai.
- agar kalah ka karan shani grah se sanbandhit hai to shani grah ki shanti kar sakte hain, shani yantra par jap kar sakte hain aur shani ki vastuon ka dan bhi kar sakte hain. iske atirikt sat mukhi rudraksh bhi dharan kar sakte hain. yah upay shanivar ko sayankal ke samay karna thik hota hai .
- agar grih kalah rahu se sanbandhit ho to rahu yantra par rahu ke mantra ka jap karen evan 8 mukhi rudraksh dharan karen. yah sabhi prakar ke kalhon v badhaon se mukt karta hai aur rahu ke dushprabhav ka nivaran karta hai. iske lie rahu ka dan bhi kar sakte hain.
- agar grih klesh ka karan ketu grah ho to uski vastuon ka dan evan uske mantra ka jap karen. ketu yantra par puja karen. ganesh mantra ka jap karen. 9 mukhi rudraksh bhi dharan kar sakte hain.
- agar grihasth jivan men kalah kisi parai stri ki vajah se ho to ye upay karen. .unanuntapadam lamau aijavadam dharan karen. nilam aur hira bhi dharan kar sakte hain. vashikaran yantra par jap karke bhi kalah ko samapt kar sakte hain. gauri shankar rudraksh bhi dharan kar sakte hain aur shighra prabhav ke lie matangi yantra bhi apne ghar men puja ke sthan par sthapit kar sakte hain.
- kai bar dekhne men ata hai ki n to grahon ki pareshani hai, n hi patri men dasha evan gochar ki sthiti kharab hai. fir bhi grih kalah hai jiske karan bat talak tak pahunch jati hai. aise men yah dharna hoti hai ki kisi ne kuch jadu tona arthat tantrik prayog to nahin kiya. agar aisa lage to ye upay karen:
- ghar men puja sthan men badhamukti yantra sthapit karen.
- shukla paksh men somvar ko uttar disha men mukh karke pati aur patni gaurishankar rudraksh dharan karen.
- patni .unanuntapadam dharan karane aur pati nilam aur hira dharan karen.
- shayan kaksh men shukra yantra ki sthapna karen. vivah badha ke upay - badha mukti yantra ki sthapna evan roj subah puja karen.
- shani grah ke karan vivah men badha a rahi ho to larke ya larki ko satmukhi rudraksh dharan karna chahie.
- shani grah ki vastuen dan karni chahie.
- shani yantra par shanivar se shuru karke roj shani ke mantra ka jap karna chahie. surya ke karan vivah men badha ati ho to:
- surya yantra ko apne ghar men sthapit karke surya mantra ka jap karen. yah ravivar se shuru karke roj karen.
- surya ki vastuon ka dan karen. tanbe ke ek lote men gehun bharakar ravivar ki subah 6 se 8 baje ke bich dan karen.
- ravivar ko 1 mukhi rudraksh dharan karen.
rahu grah ke karan vivah badhaah
- agar vivah men badha rahu grah ke karan a rahi ho to ye upay karenah
- athmukhi rudraksh dharan karen.
- rahu yantra ko apne puja sthan par sthapit karen.
- ravivar ko jau lekar ravivar ke din dan karen.
- kisi garib ko panmsala dan karen.
- gurudvare men ya kisi bhi dharmasthal par jute chappal ki seva karen.
ashubh grahon ka upay kar lena anivarya hota hai. khas kar purushon ko to ketu ke upay karne hi chahie, kyonki vivah ke bad purush ke grahon ka sanpurn prabhav stri par parta hai. larki ki shadi men rukavat ane par guruvar ko vishnu-lakshmi ji ke mandir men ja kar vishnu ji ko kalgi (jo sehre ke upar lagi hoti hai) charhaen. sath men besan ke panch laddu charhaen. shadi jaldi ho jaegi.
- kisi bhi karan se, yogya var nahin mil pa raha ho, to kanya kisi bhi guruvar ko pratah naha-dho kar pile rang ke vastra pahne. fir besan ke laddu svayan banae. ladduon ka akar kuch bhi ho, parantu unki ginti 108 honi chahie. fir pile rang ke plastik ki tokri men, pile rang ka kapra bicha kar un 108 ladduon ko usmen rakh de tatha apni shraddhanusar kuch dakshina rakh de.
pas ke kisi shiv mandir men ja kar, vivah hetu guru grah ki shanti aur anukulta ke lie sankalp karke, sara saman kisi brahman ko de de. shiv-parvati se prarthana kar apne ghar a jae. savdhani: besan ka chura, jisse laddu banae gae hon, pura kam men a jae, ghar men nahin rahe aur n hi koi laddu ghar men kam men liya jae. sabhi kam amrit, shubh ke chaighriye men, bhadrarhit hone par karen.
- yadi kanya ka vivah n ho raha ho aur mata-pita bahut pareshan hane, sare prayas vifal ho rahe hane to use kisi shubh muhurt men nimn mantron men se kisi ek ka jap karna chahie.
mantra: katyayni mahamaye mahayoginyadhishvari. nandgopsutan devan patin me kuru te namah.. ¬ devendrani namastubhya devendrapriya bhamini vivah bhagyamarogyan shighralabhan ch dehi me..
larke ki shadi ke lie guruvar ko pile rang ki chunni, pila gota laga kar, vishnu-lakshmi ji ko charhaen. sath men besan ke panch laddu charhaen to shadi men ane vali rukavat dur ho jaegi. grahon ke upay nimnalikhit hain - surya ke lie gehun aur tanbe ka bartan dan karen.
- chandra ke lie chaval, dudh evan chandi ki vastu ka dan karen.
- mangal ke lie sabut masur ya masur ki dal dan karen.
- budh ke lie sabut mung ka dan karen.
- guru ke lie chane ki dal evan sone ki vastu dan karen.
- shukra ke lie dahi, ghi, kapur aur moti men se kisi ek vastu ka dan karen.
- shani ke lie kale sabut urad evan lohe ki vastu ka dan karen.
- rahu ke lie sarson evan nilam ka dan karen.
- ketu ke lie til ka dan karen.
- kisi bhi stri ya purush ke vivah men badha a rahi ho, ya vaivahik jivan men tanav ho, to ganesh ji ke mandir men har-ful charhae aur haldi ka tilak lagae.
¬ ganeshay namah ka mantra bolte hue ganesh ji par 108 ful ek-ek karke charhae tatha arti kare. aisa 40 din tak niyamit kare. guruvar ka upvas kare. guruvar vrat katha guruvar ko kare. prati guruvar ko haldi ki ganth bistar ke niche le kar soe. larka ya larki dekhte samay haldi ka tika khud lagae. ganesh ji ko gur ka bhog lagae uske bad hi samne jae. manokamnaen shighra purn hongi.
mangal dosh ya kisi anya karan se vivah men vilanb hone par:
yadi kisi vyakti ke vivah men atyadhik vilanb ho raha ho tatha prayatn karne par bhi bat nahin ban pa rahi ho, to nimn prayog kare. sabse pahle kisi aise per ka pata kare, jis par paryapt matra men chintiyon (makron) ka rajya ho. fir manglvar ko ek thali men ata, bura (deshi khand) aur deshi ghi mila kar mishran taiyar kare tatha ek gole ko nukile sire se is prakar kate ki ek gol dhakkan jaisa hissa bahar a jae. ate-bure-ghi ke mishran ko ched dvara gole men bhar le.
jab gola upar tak bhar jae, to us par dhakkan laga de tatha gole ko polithin ke thaile men rakh le. yadi kuch mishran bach gaya ho, to use bhi gole ke sath thaile men dal le. rat ko sote samay is thaile ko sir ki taraf rakh kar so jae tatha budhvar ki subah uth kar ise lekar chintiyon vale per ke pas jae. gole ko nikal kar per ki kisi shakha, ya khol men rakh de tatha mishran ko gole ke upar dal de. thaile ko kahin bhi fenk de. vapas bina mure apne ghar a jae. vivah sanbandhi sthiti men sudhar hoga.avashyak ho, to is prayog ko 2-3 bar kiya ja sakta hai.
savdhani: budhvar ko uthne ke bad prayog kar ke vapas ghar ane tak maun rahna jaruri hai. kundli men vivah pratibandhak yog, vish kanya yog adi hon, to prayog ke sath vaneshi mantra ka jap karen, ya karaen. kisi bhi jyotishi se vivah pratibandhak v vish kanya yogon ki jankari li ja sakti hai.
sasural men sukhi rahne ke lieah sabut haldi ki 7 ganthen, pital ka ek tukra, thora sa gur agar kanya apne hath se sasural ki taraf fenk de, to vah sasural men surakshit aur sukhi rahegi.
- sas-bahu ke bich klesh dur karne ka saral upay: yadi parivar men sas-bahu ke madhya hamesha jhagra hota rahta ho jiske karan parivar men kalah ki sthiti bani rahti ho to nimn mantra ka 21 dinon tak prati din 11 mala jap karne se kalah se mukti milti hai.
mantra: ¬ shanti vaivahik sukh ke lie: kanya ka jab vivah ho chuka ho aur vah vida ho rahi ho, to ek lote men haldi aur ek pila sikka dal kar, larki ke sir ke upar se 7 bar ghuma kar, uske age fenk den. vaivahik jivan sukhi rahega. var-vadhu men pyar ke lie: sabut kale mah men hari mehandi mila kar, jis disha men var-vadhu ka ghar ho, us taraf fenken, to var-vadhu men pyar barhega aur klesh samapt hoga. yah kriya shadi ke samay bhi kar sakte hain.
- pati ki aprasannata ko dur karne ka upay: yadi pati hamesha aprasann rahta ho, patni ki baton par dhyan n deta ho, hamesha khoya-khoya sa rahta ho jiske karan vaivahik jivan men kalah utpann ho rahi ho tatha sare prayatn nishfal ho rahe hane to patni pati ki anukulta ke lie shraddha vishvas purvak bhagvan shankar evan mata parvati ka dhyan karke somvar se nimn mantra ka ek mala jap kare.
mantra: ¬ klin tryambakan yajamhe sugandhin pativedanam. urvarukmiv bandhanadito mukshiya mamritat kli ¬ - yadi pati-patni ke bich choti-choti baton ko lekar hamesha jhagra hota rahta ho tatha is karan se parivarik kalah bani rahti ho to nimn upay karne se labh hoga. shuddh sfatik se bane shivling ki pran pratishtha karvakar apne ghar men sthapit karen. 41 din tak nitya shivling par ganga jal evan bel patra charhaen.
uske pashchat nimn mantra ka nitya 5 mala jap karen. mantra: ¬ namah shivashaktisvarupay mam grihe shanti kuru kuru svaha. - pati-patni ke bich larai- jhagra ho to rat ko sote samay pati apne sirhane sindur tatha patni kapur rakhe. subah uth kar patni kapur ko jala de tatha pati sindur ko ghar men kahin bhi gira de, to ghar men larai-jhagre khatm ho jaenge tatha sukh-shanti bani rahegi.
parivar men sukh ke lie:
parivar men sukh-shanti tatha samriddhi ke lie prati din pratham roti ke char barabar bhag karen. ek gay ko, dusra kale kutte ko, tisra kaue ko den tatha chaitha bhag chairahe par rakhen.
har prakar ki sukh-shanti ke lie: ashok vriksh ke sat patte mandir men rakh kar puja karen. jab ve murjhane lagen, to nae patte rakh den aur purane ko pipal ke niche rakh aen. isse ghar men sukh-shanti bani rahegi.
grih shanti ke lie: ek patang par apne kasht tatha pareshaniyan likhen. use hava men ura kar chor den. aisa 7 din lagatar karen. sabhi kasht tatha pareshaniyan dur ho jaengi tatha ghar men sukh-shanti aegi.
ghar men ashanti rahne par: yadi apke lakh upay karne par bhi akaran hi ashanti bani rahti ho, to gay ke gobar ka ek chota dipak banaen. usmen tel aur rui ki batti dal kar thora gur dal den tatha us dipak ko jala kar darvaje ke bich rakh den. pareshaniyan kam hone lagengi. ise avashyaktanusar 2-3 bar, thore samay ke antral se, kar lena chahie. iske lie shanivar vishesh upyukt din hai tatha til ka tel shreshth hai.
gharelu jhagra hone par: ghar men prayah klesh rahta ho, ya choti-choti baton par jhagra hona ho to ghar men gehun keval somvar ya shanivar ko hi pisvaen. pisvane se pahle usmen 100 gram kale chane dal den. is prakar ka ata khan se dhire-dhire larai-jhagre tatha ghar men klesh khatm ho jaenge.
- mansik shanti evan karya ki saflta hetu: kundli men chandrama pap pirit ya ashubh hone par parivarik ashanti, dhan ki kami tatha karya sanchalan men pareshani deta hai. isse bachav ke lie ravivar ki rat ko sote samay, chandi ya stil ke gilas men thora kachcha dudh dal kar use sirhane rakh kar so jaen. somvar ki subah is dudh ko kikar (babul) ke per par charha aen.
savdhani: gilas ko kisi bartan se n dhaken. bahri badha ke karan pareshani rahne par: yadi bahri badha ke karan ghar athva vyavsay men pareshani mahsus hoti ho, to apne nivasa/vyavsay sthan ke pas jo bhi vriksh ho, uski jar men sham ko dudh dalakar vahan agarabatti jalane se labh hota hai. iske lie somvar upyukt din hai.
- sarva apda dukh nivaran hetu: kisi prakar ki vipatti ane ka bhay ho athva apdagrast ho, manobal kamjor ho gaya ho, jivan men bar-bar ashubh ghatnaon ke karan man dukhi rahta ho to shraddha vishvaspurvak nimn mantra ka mansik jap athva lal chandan ki mala se panch mala nitya jap karne se shighra labh hota hai. mantra: karotu sa nah shubhheturishvari shubhani bhadranibhihantu chapdah.
- arthik pareshani nivaran ka achuk upay: yadi arthik samasya ke karan parivar men kalah rahti ho, arthik sthiti itni kharab ho gai ho ki kuch bhi upay n sujh raha ho to kankdhara yantra ko apne ghar men athva vyavsay sthal par shodshopchar vidhi se pujan evan pran pratishthat karke sthapit karen. 21 din tak nitya yantra ke sammukh baithakar shraddha vishvaspurvak kankdhara stotra ke 11 path karen. man lakshmi ki kripa se arthik pareshani se chutkara avashya milega.
- mukdma, korta-kachahari ke mamlon ke nivaran hetu upay: yadi korta-kachahari sanbandhi mamlon ke karan jivan men sangharsh tatha tanav bana rahta ho, karya men man n lagta ho, shatruon ke jhuthe shadyantra ke karan vipatti men fanse hane to bhautik prayason ke sath-sath adhyatmik upay karne se ai hui vipatti tal jati h jisse jivan men punah sukh shanti lautti hai. shukla paksh men kisi shubh muhurt ya manglvar ko tanbe ya sone se bane baglamukhi yantra ko purn vidhi vidhan ke anusar pran pratishtha karke ghar men sthapit karen. uske bad baglamukhi mantra ka 36 hajar ki sankhya men jap aur uska dashansh havan karen. sadhna kal men purn brahmacharya ka palan karen.
jap ke lie haldi ki mala, pile vastra, pila asan tatha ek samay ka bhojan bhi pile rang ka hona chahie. is prakar ki vidhi se pavitra avastha men jap karne se man baglamukhi ki kripadrishti shighra prapt hoti hai. sadhna kal men truti hone par iska ulta prabhav bhi ho sakta hai. islie is sadhna ko kisi anubhvi, siddh guru ke sannidhya men sanpann karen ya kisi suyogya karmakandi brahman se anushthan kara sakte hain.
mantra: ¬ jin baglamukhi sarvadushtanan munkhan padan stambhay jinan kilay buddhin nashay jin ¬ svaha. - bhay nash ke lie: man men hamesha bhay bana rahta ho, har samay anisht ki ashanka rahti ho, dabbupan ki adat ban gai ho, dhairya evan sahas men kami ho jiske karan manobal kamjor par gaya ho, hamasheaa mansik pareshani rahti ho to bhagvti durga ka yantra puja v pran pratishtha karke apne ghar men sthapit kar aur yantra ke sammukh baith kar nitya nimn mantra ka jap karen. mantra: sarvasvarupe sarveshe sarvashakti-samanvite. bhayebhyastrahi no devi durge devi namo'stu te..