vaivahik jivan sukhamay bite iske lie shadi se pahle gun milan ke sath-sath grah milan bhi avashyak hai. kanya ki kundli men vivah karak brihaspati hota hai aur purush ki kundli men vivah ka vichar shukra se kiya jata hai. yadi donon grah shubh hon aur unapar shubh grahon ki drishti parti ho to vivah ka yog jaldi banta hai.
vivah deri se karane men bahut se grah karak hote hain
1. shani saptam bhav men sthit ho, bhale hi svagrihi ho, parantu surya se ya mangal se saptamasth hone ke karan vivah men badha ati hai.
2. yadi kisi kanya ki kundli men saptam bhav men mangal, shani v shukra ke sath yuti kar raha ho to kanya ka vivah bari umra men hota hai.
3. yadi kanya ki kundli men lagn men mangal, surya v budh ho aur guru dvadash bhav men ho to kanya ka vivah deri se hota hai.
4. yadi kundli men shani v surya parasparik drishti sanbandh rakhte hon v lagn ya saptam bhav prabhavit ho raha ho to vivah ki sanbhavnaen bahut kam hoti hain. shighra vivah ke lie upay 1. kanya guruvar ke din (shukla paksha) jal men haldi dalakar nahae. ye upay shukla paksh ke pahle virvar se kare. 2. kanya guruvar ke din stil ke lote men jal, gangajal v haldi milakar adha jal kele v adha jal pipal par charhae. jal charhate samay un brin brihaspataye namah ka jap karte rahe v shighra vivah ki prarthana kare. 3. kanya guruvar ke din ate ke do pede banakar, haldi ka tilak lagakar v chane ki dal pere par rakhakar safed gay ko savere khilae v shighra vivah ki prarthana kare. 4. kanya guruvar ke din panch besan ke laddu aur ek sehre ki kalgi bhagvan vishnu ko arpit kare aur shighra vivah ki prarthana narayan se kare. aisa char guruvar kare.
5. kanya har guruvar ko safed gay ko chane ki dal khilae v ganesh ji ko besan ka laddu arpit kare, bhog lagae v shighra vivah ki prarthana kare.
6. virvar (shukla paksha) se shuru karke rojana kesar ka tilak mathe, juban v nabhi par lagae.
7. larki v larka har guruvar ganesh sahastranam ka path karen.
8. kanya har guruvar ubatan lagakar nahae.
9. rishte ban